On this night one year ago I sat sitting here watching television knowing that the events of the next day would change everything. Little did I know that those events would challenged everything I knew as a man to get through this past year. I arrived early the next day as planned and spoke with her cardiac surgeon to go over what was about to take place. My wife and I shared a few private moments and then they took her off. We knew that it was going to be a long day. She had made it through the surgery but little did she know what had been found. It was far worse than what we had expected. We had done every test known to man but yet the unexpected still happened. Telling her was tough especially since she had been a cardiac nurse for nearly 4 decades. In the following few days she just wasn’t responding like we had hoped. A test was done that discovered what the problem was a a second surgery had to take place or she wouldn’t survive. What a long day that turned out to be and it wouldn’t be the last. Later we found out that if the surgeon had known how bad it was he would have never gone in. A year has passed and she is still with us the only question is how much longer we will have her. That will make the last year look like a walk in the park. The fact is if you don’t have a core sense of values you will never get through something like this and that is no lie.