A few years ago after my second shoulder surgery ( and they don’t know what is causing the pain) I asked my doctor what he thought about alternative medical methods. He said the Chinese have been practicing different methods for over 4000 years so they must be doing something right. That mindset is becoming more and more prevalent in today’s western medical mindset. That is a good and necessary thing to be happening. Modern western medicine has the mindset of fixing people after they get sick instead of trying to keep people from getting sick in the first place. There are so many theories as to how to control medical cost. Wouldn’t it make sense to keep people from getting sick in the first place? Yet many Americans don’t want to change the way they live but prefer to run to the nearest ER at the first sign of illness. Of course the ER is the most expensive part of most hospitals. So why not at least explore other forms of treatment? What do you have to lose?
Caregivers come in many shapes,sizes and colors. The can be young,old,single or married. For many they have this vision of an aging parent being taken care of by their adult children. In many cases that is true but for some it is totally different. Being a caregiver makes you challenge yourself in ways you never expected were possible. There is this lingering doubt internally about if you are doing it right? There are no absolute rules about what is right and wrong for your situation. So the question comes down to what you are comfortable with inside of you. To the outside world they blow in and out with their options and leave. Those are people who I like to refer to as “noise makers”. They like to make noise but they really are of no help. Caregivers are angels in so many ways and yet they get so caught up in caring for their loved one they forget about themselves. There is this constant battle within themselves that often results in this question of if they do something for themselves they feel guilty. Caregivers are angels in so many ways and the sad part is they don’t realize it. So if you know a caregiver give them some encouragement for in many ways they like their loved one feel so alone.
The issue of non-profits is an interesting one that in ways is confusing and sad. For many in the community the only time they hear from non-profits is during the holiday season asking for money. For many that simply turns people off to giving anything. However it is understandable why non-profits do it. For many people it is a tradition to give at that time. Which is fine. Some people feel pressured to give. The fact is the needs of those less fortunate are a 365 day a year thing. For many non-profits they are understaffed and are constantly trying to find different sources of revenue are in competition with other non-profits to secure the same funding. There is a certain sadness to it if you stop and think about the constant struggle for funding. For many as they age their spouses give them instructions to make a donation in their name when something happens to them. The question then becomes which one? Non-profits are they their worst enemy? I don’t know but I do know the needs of others less fortunate don’t happen just during the winter months. I also know that for those out there who have this false idea that they could never become homeless you need to look again. Former President Bill Clinton said that for a generation that fought against the establishment we have become the most materialistic society in human history. He is right and for many non-profits they try and fill in the gap each and every day. Which in the end is a noble cause.