Asking a question very often can lead to confusion and uncertainty of how the person receiving the question will receive it. As we age and face what can be extremely difficult situations many people are afraid to ask a question that may be considered obtrusive. The only way you will ever know is to ask and let the person receiving the question decide how they want to handle it. By not asking the question you may be doing both of you a disservice. There are times that just a simple dialog is all the receiving person needs. Then there are times that asking a question can be harmful. The night I lost my dad after I called the time of his death a young nurse came behind me and asked if I needed help taking off my gown. Needless to say my reaction was not real pleasant. My dad had not been dead 3 minutes. Later that evening when signing all the necessary paperwork the young nurse came up and apologized. The thing is that nurse will never do that again. So it’s ok to ask questions because you will never know unless you ask.
It’s that time of year again when garage and yard sales pop up like the spring flowers. There are 2 kinds of people who have these events. The first is the one who is just getting rid of stuff and the other who wants you to pony up bucks for the stupid mistakes they made. It’s easy to tell which is which. When going to one of these events never walk up and ask a price about something first. Take your time and listen to the conversations that the selling person has with other potential buyers. The ones who are expecting you to bail them out stand out in about 5 seconds. The one’s trying to just get rid of their stuff are the one’s you want to deal with and they are much more willing to drop prices. Remember your job is to get the best deal for yourself not to make up for someone else’s mistake. You are not a charity. I saw a garage sale recently in which all they had was large exercise equipment. Besides not being practical for potential buyers ( i.e. who drives around in something big enough to carry that stuff away?) have never gone to garage/yard sale to buy exercise equipment. So remember your first thing to make the best deal for you! Another thing that crossed my mind while writing about this subject. If people are so lazy that they throw their stuff on the ground and expect me to bend over to look at it that won’t happen. If they don’t have enough respect to elevate things for their potential buyer’s then why should buyer’s bend over because the seller is being lazy?
For many of us in life we know we have relationships that if we are honest to ourselves we know it’s a relationship that is really a case of you doing all the giving and the other person just takes. It simply wears you out and at some point you give up on the relationship.
Why should business relationships be any different? It can mean the end to your business and honestly you need to constantly review the status of your business relationships or you can look around one day and wonder happened?
Here is a fact about business and life. About 90 to 95% are just passing through your life. There is a very small percentage that will be around for an extended period of time. So do you want to hang on to business relationships that can sink your business or weed out those who are part of a truly one sided relationship?