As we go through life we quickly come to realize that it’s the small things that really matter. I could write about some very complicated subjects but the things that are the most important are those that people have done to make life more enjoyable. Often these things happen when you least expect it. The real truth about life is that we never know what is going on in someone’s life and they don’t with yours. I know there have been times in which I felt my world collapsing around me when someone has reached out to offer a kind word or gesture. As we age and begin to reflect on our life’s journey it’s the small things you remember not the big stuff or the arguments. For those of you are younger you need to stop and enjoy the roses of life because one day you will wake up and wonder what happened to all the years. They go by so fast and all of the time you spent on so many important things fade like a wisp of wind blowing across spring meadow. As I like to say ” I have no idea what my parents got me for Christmas in 1965″ ( yes I am that old) but I can tell you about a kind woman a couple of years ago who offered to feed me with her cafeteria discount just to make sure I was ok. Failure to realize it’s the little things in life that matter is a huge mistake that one day you will come to regret.
This afternoon I met with an old friend someone who has seen me at my worst and at my best yet things were different. The long talks we used to have about the issues of the day and history were gone. Instead we talked about issues that many face as they age. The time together was much shorter. As I drove home and tears flowed down my face the realization hit that these times are becoming less frequent and this could have been the last time for one of our chats. Of course I hope not but the reality is at some point it will be the last. It’s called life and sometimes you can’t help but wonder the fairness of it all.
As we age at some point is the realization that the most important thing in your life is your time and how it’s spent. In a culture that has become more and more crass in how we interact with each other the biggest single thing that gets ignored is how we waist others time. Time they will never get back. You see this often in grocery store checkouts lines. The first thing is when you step in line to pay for your items you know in advance that this is a participatory activity. How many times have we all waited while the person in of us front figures out a way to pay for their items? Then they get chit-chatting with the cashier and in doing so they are taking seconds or minutes of your time that you will never get back! When you tell someone that you are willing to help them what you are really saying is that I am willing to give up my time for you. That is something that should not be taken for granted. Life events often gives you a new perspective of time and how fleeting it really is and will be gone in a flash!