A few years ago after my second shoulder surgery ( and they don’t know what is causing the pain) I asked my doctor what he thought about alternative medical methods. He said the Chinese have been practicing different methods for over 4000 years so they must be doing something right. That mindset is becoming more and more prevalent in today’s western medical mindset. That is a good and necessary thing to be happening. Modern western medicine has the mindset of fixing people after they get sick instead of trying to keep people from getting sick in the first place. There are so many theories as to how to control medical cost. Wouldn’t it make sense to keep people from getting sick in the first place? Yet many Americans don’t want to change the way they live but prefer to run to the nearest ER at the first sign of illness. Of course the ER is the most expensive part of most hospitals. So why not at least explore other forms of treatment? What do you have to lose?
There are a multitude of studies who come up with all kinds of things you should do and not do to fight depression. The question is do you have enough tools in your tool pouch that meets your needs? The operative two words are ” your needs”not someone else’s. You see at it’s core like all medicine is science. Science (as most know) is not exact and therefore people need to be really careful about putting tools in their tool pouch that does not work for them. As an example: A roofer would not take a pillow to repair a leaky roof. Then why do many people in their attempt to fight off depression take whatever is thrown at them? In fairness to many in the medical community they are honest hardworking people trying to make a difference. In many ways the odds are stacked against them. They suffer from the lack of funding and insurance companies who just refuse to treat mental health the same as physical health. Which is wrong. So the next time some wants to give you something to help with your depression ask yourself this question. Does it have a place in my tool pouch? The thing is everyone’s tool pouch is different.
I know there are mental health professionals out there who think you have to be serious about this stuff 24 hours a day. Give me a break. So I have come up with some rules from over 5 decades of dealing with this stuff.
1.} There is no quick fix and medicines that will make everything better overnight. They simply are not there.
2} If you are a married man and fighting depression your spouse may love you but she is still in charge!
3} If the one you care about the most is someone that you can’t go to and tell them that things are getting scary for you then you need to think about that relationship again.
4} Be aware of you environment. On cloudy days you have to get yourself around other people. Fast food places are a good place to go. You are around people but you don’t have to answer any questions about how you feel.
5} Take control of the medicines you are on. Never let anyone else pour out your medicines for you unless they are a trained medical professional.
6} There is no need to focus on this stuff every waking second. Give yourself a break.
7} Drinking,taking medicines and driving are never a good idea.
8} This the toughest one by far. You need someone in your life whose only concern is your well being. That wipes out a good portion of the people in your life.
9} Not every counseling session has to be about serious issues. It ok to laugh and stop putting so much pressure on yourself.
10} Remember this is a marathon and not a sprint.