This afternoon I met with an old friend someone who has seen me at my worst and at my best yet things were different. The long talks we used to have about the issues of the day and history were gone. Instead we talked about issues that many face as they age. The time together was much shorter. As I drove home and tears flowed down my face the realization hit that these times are becoming less frequent and this could have been the last time for one of our chats. Of course I hope not but the reality is at some point it will be the last. It’s called life and sometimes you can’t help but wonder the fairness of it all.
A few years ago after my second shoulder surgery ( and they don’t know what is causing the pain) I asked my doctor what he thought about alternative medical methods. He said the Chinese have been practicing different methods for over 4000 years so they must be doing something right. That mindset is becoming more and more prevalent in today’s western medical mindset. That is a good and necessary thing to be happening. Modern western medicine has the mindset of fixing people after they get sick instead of trying to keep people from getting sick in the first place. There are so many theories as to how to control medical cost. Wouldn’t it make sense to keep people from getting sick in the first place? Yet many Americans don’t want to change the way they live but prefer to run to the nearest ER at the first sign of illness. Of course the ER is the most expensive part of most hospitals. So why not at least explore other forms of treatment? What do you have to lose?
There are a multitude of studies who come up with all kinds of things you should do and not do to fight depression. The question is do you have enough tools in your tool pouch that meets your needs? The operative two words are ” your needs”not someone else’s. You see at it’s core like all medicine is science. Science (as most know) is not exact and therefore people need to be really careful about putting tools in their tool pouch that does not work for them. As an example: A roofer would not take a pillow to repair a leaky roof. Then why do many people in their attempt to fight off depression take whatever is thrown at them? In fairness to many in the medical community they are honest hardworking people trying to make a difference. In many ways the odds are stacked against them. They suffer from the lack of funding and insurance companies who just refuse to treat mental health the same as physical health. Which is wrong. So the next time some wants to give you something to help with your depression ask yourself this question. Does it have a place in my tool pouch? The thing is everyone’s tool pouch is different.